gimme some of that old time guilt

Okay, what is it about my family that they know exactly how to guilt me? My uncle, who lives in Vegas, did some really great things for us while we were there in March getting married. He emailed today to say he was worried because he hasn't heard from us except for one message I sent him to warn him that my sister was going to call to ask for money. He then said that he had gotten nice thank you cards from my mom, MIL, and SIL. Hmmm, no card from me? Okay, just got married, had a honeymoon, big reception, finished the semester, and work full time. No, I haven't sent thank you's yet. He didn't mean anything by it, but the perfectionist in me is screaming BAD NIECE! He then went on to ask if I had gone to see my Grandma lately (no) and that we all know she doesn't have much time left because she'll be 80 in July. Argh! I can't win. I'm not that close to this Grandma and she made it very clear when I was little that I was the bottom priority of her 8 grandchildren. Now that I'm the only one who isn't royally fucked up, she wonders why I don't visit. Well, let me see...

My sister, by the way, is 32. She has 4 kids. A 15 year old boy, a 12 year old girl, a baby that just turned 1, and another little girl that is now 1 month old. The last two are just less than a year apart. Her husband, the father of the 2 little ones, is only 22. She is on welfare, which pisses me off because she gets paid to sit on her ass and pop out babies while I pay for her damn welfare! Okay, sorry, that's my soapbox. I know that some families need economical assistance, but it makes me mad when perfectly capable people take advantage of a system that I am helping to fund!

Okay, I've gotten my rant out! Had a great day at work and am going out to buy a new scanner tonight. Maybe I'll figure out (or have the hubby do it!) a way to post some wedding pictures on here. Have a great evening! I'm going to watch AI and know that Fantasia doesn't even have to compete now!